"We’re not called to make everyone happy. Happiness is each individual’s responsibility and you can’t fix them, only God can!
Who are you trying to please and make happy today that will get angry if you don’t continue to keep them “fixed”?
Listen friends, if someone is getting upset with you because you won’t borrow or give them money, a ride, bail them out of jail, etc. they’re not your friend—they’re you’re manipulator.
Yes, we can help people when they’re down, lift them up when they need an encouraging hug or word, bless them with food or our time—and there is nothing wrong with that—that’s real love. But if people are expecting you to always be there for them at their every beck and call—you’re becoming their enabler to NOT face the truths about themselves.
Because the truth is this: You are not their answer, Jesus is. And if you continue to attempt to keep them happy, you will eventually get frustrated, angry and burnt out. Their vacuum of unhappiness was never meant to be put on your shoulders as a burden for you to carry, because last time I checked, that’s what Jesus came for:
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls.] (Matthew 11:28 AMP)
We can’t continually give to others who aren’t appreciative—especially if they’re using us. But what we CAN do is communicate that we will no longer be doormats in their every life crisis.
Because real love doesn’t use others, it isn’t abusive or exploitive—it gives back. Real love takes responsibility and pulls up it’s bootstraps to partner with God and trust Him for our every need, not people.
At the end of the day, God is who truly makes us happy! We can’t show the real and loving God we know to others if we are their enabler—for it makes us a “god” in their lives!
He who deals wisely and heeds [God’s] word and counsel shall find good, and whoever leans on, trusts in, and is confident in the Lord–happy, blessed, and fortunate is he. (Proverbs 16:20 AMP)
Did you read what that says? HE who deals wisely—and HEEDS God’s word and counsel shall find good—-and WHOEVER leans on and trusts God shall be happy. It doesn’t say “He who is a continuous crutch for someone else shall make them happy.”
Friends, it’s not our job to keep other’s fixed! It’s high time to cut the puppet strings of codependency so you can be free to be happy yourself!
Sure, others might be mad at you when you decide to cut those strings. They may even try to use guilt into manipulating you to help them again, and then even slander or gossip about you behind your back because you’re no longer enabling them. But you need to stand strong against those feelings and NOT bow down!
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10 ESV)
Trust that God will show them that YOU aren’t their answer for everything—He is!
Now go and BE blessed, free and happy. Love you my friends”~Annie
-Annie Lobert”
—Hookers For Jesus
